Achieving Inner Peace …

January 28, 2017

I came across this quote whilst browsing on Pinterest and it really struck a cord with me. The other day I was checking my twitter followers on crowdfire (as all good bloggers do) when I got a notification that one of my real life friends had unfollowed me. 

Feeling a little bit confused I headed over to facebook to check to see if my friend was still on there and I was saddened to see that I had been unfriended.

Normally my 1st reaction would have been to contact her and ask the reason why … I am a spur of the moment girl and usually react before I can think straight. On this occasion however I stopped and took stock of things and realised that it didn’t matter.

I finally have found inner peace … and felt inspired to write this post.

” I don’t really know why you decided to cut me out of your life. I can only imagine you read my latest blog post and decided that I was writing about you. Maybe I was … maybe I wasn’t … you never gave me the chance to explain.

Being diagnosed with a life threatening illness does all sorts of crazy things to you. It makes you want to hide away from the world. It makes you tell people that you are ok when really you aren’t. It makes you stop replying to text messages … become jealous when you see people out living their lives and you are lying on your sofa in pain wondering where your life is headed and having all sort of crazy irrational thoughts at 3am sobbing.

I could call you out and say that I was there for you when things in your life were tough but I won’t. As a friend I thought you would know that I am not good at asking for help and admitting when things are tough but I was wrong and you know what? I am ok with that.

I wish you well in your life … I know you have struggled and I admire you for the person you have became. Hopefully one day I too will overcome my struggles both physically and mentally.

I am getting there day by day …. 

Cuddle Fairy

18 Comments

  • Whatlauraloves

    January 29, 2017 at 1:00 am

    I lost my two best mates over the last couple of years and blamed myself for so long. The first just cut me out of her life and I couldn’t understand why- now I know she was jealous and treated me so badly. When the second best friend abused my friendship too I knew to walk away from her for the best. Its so hard though xxx

  • Sam B

    January 29, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    I dropped many people that were vile, evil and nasty. At the time I never realised, I had no idea what was really going on until I became really ill.
    Then I started to realise. Dropped them and never been better. Been 4 years since and couldn’t be happier because of it

  • Sarah

    January 29, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    I’ve been cut out of people’s lives too, for no apparent reason. But remember, they ditch you, they don’t deserve you. It’s their loss.
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  • Ickle Pickle

    January 29, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    This really resonated with me – I still struggle with a friendship that ended without my having chance to ask her why? This has made me think that I can move on, thank you. Kaz x
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  • Sabina Sher

    January 29, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    I like to surround myself with positive people and energy, it’s amazing the difference it makes!
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  • Lucy Grace

    January 29, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    It is always a struggle for me to not let other’s opinions matter to me. But, I just remember the quote from Dr Seus that reads ‘Those who mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind’. Inner peace is something I gain and then lose depending on what is happening around me, but the fact I keep trying is always the key. Lovely post! #dreamandsparkle

  • Jenny

    January 30, 2017 at 12:25 am

    That quote is probably some pretty sobering advice. Don’t take this personally, your acquaintance (that’s what they are now, right?) didn’t deal with it on a personal level. It’s probably not you x

  • Rachel

    January 30, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    I think a lot of people could do with that first Inner Peace sign right now x
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  • Bear and Cardigan

    January 30, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    I think this is so true. People may cut you off but if they do it that easily without you knowing why then they are not worth worrying about. I love the idea of inner peace.
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  • kira

    January 30, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    This was a lovely open post to read! I’ve had similar things happen to me before now so I know what it can be like. That said, I don’t think any of my real friends actually bother to read my blog so it’s difficult :/ 🙂
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  • Sarah Hocking

    January 31, 2017 at 4:41 am

    I can totally relate to this. Particularywhen you have a life threatening illness or a permanent disability. Times of crisis are really a tester to show you who your real friends are. Your true friends are also there for you when the world keeps on turning and you feel forgotten about. . I love how you are so graceful and not bitter about it. #CandidCuddles

  • Madeline (This Glorious Life)

    January 31, 2017 at 10:29 am

    Sorry to hear that you’ve lost a friend, but it sounds like you need people in your life that understand you and care for you, so maybe it’s for the best to let people go that don’t bring these things any more. x #CandidCuddles

  • Peachy and her Mommy

    January 31, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Friends come and go. It’s the difficult times in our lives that show us which friends are worth fighting for and which we are better off not having near us. I hope you overcome your struggles and make new friends along the way. The kind of friends that are there to help you and support in the way that you need. #DreamandSparkle

  • Jazmin Williams

    February 1, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    I’ve had to drop a lot of people in life, in particular the past year, because they’re so toxic! It’s hard and sometimes it’s like “is it me?” but then you get friends who remind you how you should be treated and it’s not you at all. Just a lot of selfish and nasty people around.

  • Jazmin Williams

    February 1, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    I’ve had to drop a lot of people in life, in particular the past year, because they’re so toxic! It’s hard and sometimes it’s like “is it me?” but then you get friends who remind you how you should be treated and it’s not you at all. Just a lot of selfish and nasty people around.

  • Angela Milnes

    February 1, 2017 at 8:00 pm

    Sorry you have a illness. It’s no fun..I totally understand and can make it hard to feel peaceful. I agree with the quote, we can choose to feel peace, even when the world around us is crazy!
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  • Brandi Puga

    February 2, 2017 at 4:39 pm

    Our minds are very powerful and can overcome so much…despite illness and evil in the world we can go on! #DreamandSparkle

  • Becky, Cuddle Fairy

    February 3, 2017 at 8:41 pm

    Ah Sparkles, it hasn’t been easy for you. You need people around you who are going to love & support you! I love the first quote & I think it’s a wonderful way to live but not easy. It’s great you have such a wonderful perspective. It’s lovely to have you join us for #candidcuddles xx
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